Ask Lemmy

Hi. Trans person here.

This is how The Big Questions start. Good luck.

I have an agendered one but I'm also legit considering changing it.

Good luck with your transition!!!

No.

I knew the name I would have gotten if had been born a girl for multiple years before I came out as trans and now that is my real name.

No.

Can't say I've ever thought about it as a cis male. It's pretty easy to come up with the best sounding derivative though. If you feel that this may be an important choice for you it may benefit you to explore further and perhaps talk to a therapist who has helped others with dysphoria.

It may also help to add that I've gone through phases of not liking my name. It's not a "normal" name and people very often mishear it as something else. Through this I've only ever considered other cis male centric names, also derivatives of my actual name.

My name is not gendered, so I’m good to go.

I'm not really sure how that works as a trans person lol

I'm trans so I would have to decline answering, as any other name than my current one would just be asked and used in attempts to hurt me. But I do know exactly what names I would have

I'm gonna go with no.

As a cis female I never considered going for a traditionally male name. I do however have a gender neutral name I go by in certain circles. I also used to have a gender neutral account for online gaming.

Nope, I don't have one.

I'd have no idea. Yeah, there's a feminine name I could extract from my current name, but my first impression is that I wouldn't want that. I have no idea.

Good luck with your journey!

Yeah my name is Clement, so Clementine, like the Walking Dead character. Actually kids in school called me that thinking it was mean... I actually didn't mind.

I have a gender-neutral name, so I'd probably stick with the same one.

Probably Rachel

I feel like "Kolanaki" works both ways. Which is great, because I also go both ways.

I'm a woman, my parents already gave me a male name. I never really thought about it until my brother had a son and named him after me.

My mum said if I were a boy, my name would've been Daniel

Nope, but I go by my furry name most places and that's rather gender neutral.

My name has an obvious feminine version, and I like it enough too.

I've personally known only very few women with that name, (it's not uncommon) but the ones I did were gorgeous, so I'd happily put myself in that club if I woke up different tomorrow.

My middle name is already unisex too, so my initials wouldn't even change lol.

Actually, I have one at the ready, mostly because my dad used to call my brother and I by our feminine equivalent names to bug us as children (different time, young army guy).

Have not given thought to preferred choices, though, just that one.

Not really. Probably just the female version of my name

Since I was named after my dad I suppose I would've been named after my mom or another family member.

And uh, I guess "Cally" is kind of gender neutral-ish but it is my main online username so it'd be weird to use it somewhere else. Also I'm unsure how to pronounce it in portuguese, which is my native language.

I was named after my dad while my first sister born after me was named after my mom. (My parents would not have won any points for originality.)

If I'd been assigned female at birth I would probably have been named after my mom instead, and given the name my sister ended up with rather than just the feminine version of my present name.

As it stands I'm a cis man, but if I suddenly needed to change to a woman's name for some reason my name has a common feminine variant I'd use.

If you asked me to pick a different name remaining a guy I don't think I could without a lot of thought.