rob_t_firefly

joined 2 years ago
[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

I listen to music a lot, and I also just use VLC. I have a well-sorted media collection and just drag whatever files/folders I want into VLC.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I was named after my dad while my first sister born after me was named after my mom. (My parents would not have won any points for originality.)

If I'd been assigned female at birth I would probably have been named after my mom instead, and given the name my sister ended up with rather than just the feminine version of my present name.

As it stands I'm a cis man, but if I suddenly needed to change to a woman's name for some reason my name has a common feminine variant I'd use.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It was a Geico ad which took advantage of it being the era with all those competing collect-call services everyone knew about.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I knew someone who used Unicode glyphs to name their wifi the following string: ┓┏ 凵 =╱⊿┌┬┐

It was a reference to a Doctor Who episode in which people were getting zapped by the monster of the week after connecting to a mysterious alien wifi network.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

There's still IRC. Discord has always just been IRC with additional media embeds and an outer layer of shiny Nerf controls for babies.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I click the arrows.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Speaking as a white person of mostly Italian-American ancestry in my late 40s from New York, USA.

My mother and father were always called "Mom" and "Dad." They divorced, my dad remarried first, and my stepmother has always been called by her first name; my sister and I were never asked to call her "Mom," and it would have been very weird for anyone to ask us to do so when we already had a mom who wasn't her. When my mother remarried, he was an immigrant from a Spanish-speaking country and we briefly fell into calling our stepfather "Papi" which is Spanish for "Dad." That was a little weird, though, and we went back to using his first name.

The cliche' you mention from Western TV and films of a child calling a mother or father by their first name is often a standard joke about the kid acting rebellious and rejecting their parents' authority, and usually is depicted as a brief goofy phase which passes by the end of the episode, and not meant to depict a realistic ongoing relationship between parent and child. Alternatively, it could be illustrating a more nontraditional "hippie" family culture as noted by some others in these replies.

As for uncles and aunts, calling them "Uncle (name)" or "Aunt/Auntie (name)" is generally the norm in many Western cultures. I generally call my own "Uncle/Aunt (name)." However, it does very much vary.

Sometimes the formal "Aunt/Uncle" address is more of a thing for children, and when one reaches adulthood they might drop the "uncle" or "aunt" title and just use first names as their relationship transitions from one between a child and adult to a more equal dynamic between adults.

In some families the dynamic may even be different for individual aunts or uncles depending on how close the family relationship is; if it's a family member who lives nearby and you see all the time and have a very close personal relationship with, or if it's a distant relative you may only meet in person and communicate with rarely over the course of years, one may find the individual relationship (and, consequently, the form of address) develops differently with that family member. I call my close aunts and uncles who are regular presences in my life "Aunt/Uncle (name)," but if I encountered a distant relative from far away who I haven't seen or spoken with in 30 years I'd probably just use their first name.

Also, in some families "Uncle" or "Aunt/Auntie" can be a form of respectful address for older adults even if they are not family relations. In my childhood some of my mother's closest friends who were regular presences in our lives were addressed as "Aunt/Uncle (name)" despite there being no blood relations between us, though when I grew up the "Uncle/Aunt" title was dropped and we just call them by their names as our adult-to-adult friendship continued. This was not the case on my father's side of the family, where adult friends were always just called by their first names.

Particular mention must be made of the use of the terms "Uncle/Unc" or "Aunt/Auntie" among and toward elder members of the Black community with which one is not related. It is a very delicate issue, and as a white person I don't use it and don't claim any authority to speak on the subject, but I think it's important to learn more about. Some more info can be found starting here and here, but it should be discussed with members of that community if you wish to know more.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

I'll try to give the shorter version of my long-ass answer to this question.

When I first went online and got involved with the hacker community, the queer community, and other subcultural stuff as a kid in the 1990s - first on BBSes, then online services like CompuServe and AOL, and eventually the real Internet via Usenet, email lists, and web forum type things - it definitely was not the thing to do to use your "real" name and identity. So I did that for a while under made-up screennames, and eventually settled upon the screenname you see me using here.

Eventually around the turn of the millennium, as I grew up and the communities I'd flourished in online became a more and more important part of my life, I got tired of trying to lead the double-life thing. I was always conditioned to worry about what would happen if the people at my day job, my family, etc. in "real life" found out about the "me" I was online, but the more I settled into my adult self the more I realized that online me was the me I enjoyed being and I didn't want to have to hide it. I never had much of a taste for living in closets.

Not to get all overdramatic or invite direct comparisons, but I'd found myself thinking about how in the Batman universe the Batman identity was described as the man being his true self while the playboy Bruce Wayne identity was the fake persona he put on to hide behind. I got tired of having to fabricate my own Bruce Wayne.

I'd stopped being camera-shy online or at hacker events, and began sharing my face photos in a time when it was not expected for everyone on social media to do so. I registered the domain of my more mundane non-screenname name, and put my personal site in all my online profiles. I began incorporating online work I'd done under my screenname in my resumes, figuring it was time to find myself work, friends, and "real life" surroundings that would appreciate the things I enjoy doing instead of freaking out when they found out about them.

It's all worked out pretty nicely for me. My real-life family, friends, and colleagues appreciate who I am, people interested in work I do can easily connect, and I don't have to worry about it all falling apart because the wrong person learns something about me. I like sharing who I am. I'm also in a very happy marriage with someone who met me on a dating app where I used this same screenname connected with both my online and real-life weirdness, and she appreciates all the different chunks of my life.

So, when it came time to ditch Reddit and check out Lemmy, I continued to use the same screenname and userpic I use everywhere else, and you can still click my profile and find both my online and real-life info. There was no compelling reason for me not to do that.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago

The Super Mario warp pipe noise.