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[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 20 points 1 day ago (2 children)

that want to have children

As long as people who don't want to have children aren't pressured. Not everyone is interested in parenting, and that needs to be accepted.

[–] dan1101@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago

China isn't good about things like that. They have billions of people, they aren't going to worry about the feelings of those not contributing to the machine.

[–] BangCrash@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

How have you taken a good thing for people and turned it into a bad thing for you.

Can't you just be happy for others without making it about yourself?

[–] Yawweee877h444@lemmy.world 11 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

China is not doing this out of kindness or altruism in any respects. They don't care about people wanting to have kids. They're doing it because they need more poor people to keep working and replenishing the poor workers, to prop up the elite class. Why can't you see this?

Not isolated to China. Most western countries including the US have the same goals, it's not altruistic.

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, there is real concern that measures to prop up birth rates might become coercive. That people may feel pressured to reproduce whether they want to or not.

[–] Alcoholicorn@mander.xyz 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

there is real concern

By who?

people may feel pressured

There is nothing the cpc could do that would register compared to the pressure exerted by the average parent.

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 1 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

You don't foresee governments being capable of engaging in coercive, if not outright totalitarian measures?

As a simple hypothetical example: consider the effect of banning (or otherwise significantly restricting) contraceptives.

[–] Alcoholicorn@mander.xyz 0 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Governments? Yes. China specifically? Probably not. Korea maybe, because they've been having some extremely normal politics as of late.

Chinese dudes I've talked to have lamented the contradictory pressure and social requirements of getting married, I can't predict what kind of policy would help address this. Promoting gay marriage and adoption? Telling parents it's fine if everyone doesn't get married? Housing subsidies for grandparents to move nearby and provide childcare so a smaller dowry is acceptable? Letting immigrants on spouse visas work?

The women I've talked to have mostly lamented the same bullshit women everywhere deal with, dudes cheating or being unwilling to put in the same effort. IDK if these concerns will result in policy changes.

[–] BangCrash@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

Sure but that's a totally different discussion than the other commentor making it about themselves

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I don't live in China, so this isn't about me.

Did you hurt yourself making that stretch?

[–] BangCrash@lemmy.world 0 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

Exactly it's not about you.

So why are you commenting that some people DONT WANT KIDS and this shouldnt be forced on us.

You are making it about yourself.

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

The only person trying to make it about me is...you.

Quit trying to make it happen, and stop with the fucking gaslighing.

[–] BangCrash@lemmy.world 3 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

The original comment was

"Anything that helps people that want to have children is good"

Your response was

"As long as people who don't want to have children aren't pressured. Not everyone is interested in parenting, and that needs to be accepted."

At no point was anyone's talking about forcing people to have kids. You've built a strawman and are arguing about something that nobody is talking about.

You. You have made it about yourself and are now trying to pretend you didn't.

[–] k0e3@lemmy.ca 3 points 12 hours ago

Yeah, the guy you're talking to took "anything" and started talking about some hypothetical rapist government when the original comment clearly says "people that want to have children."

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 0 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
[–] BangCrash@lemmy.world 0 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

The fact you can't reflect on how your own words come across is a huge red flag

Good luck @EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 4 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

You seem to be the only one using such a stretched interpretation. You went out of your way to interpret something in the worst manner possible. And now you're just fixated on your own misinterpretation and using it to pick a fight. That's the huge red flag you're talking about.

I don't see anyone jumping in here to support you. At least Yawweee seems to get it.

[–] BangCrash@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago

What ever reason china is doing is doesn't negate the fact no one of forcing or pressuring people to have kids.

What the country is doing is making it easier for those that choose to have kids to do so.

Lots people want to have kids but can't because life is so goddamn expensive at the moment.

This allows them to do that.

You are completely free to choose not to. To focus on and say "but what about me I don't want kids" has absolutely no bearing on the fact that lots of people do.

I'm happy for you to not have kids. I hope you grow old and boring. It sounds like we'd be better of if you dont procreate anyway.