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I worked at Disneyland. I met and dated plenty, it's not so hard to learn to be social when you spend every day meeting thousands of people. Mostly dated fellow cast members.
I ended up meeting the women I would grow to love during that time. We went on one date and ended up just being friends. We both misunderstood each other's signals. She ended up deployed and we fell out of touch. Nearly 10 years later, she had a daughter and was going through a divorce. We randomly started chatting again, and she wanted to have some fun. I invited her to a few things, and while I thought I was putting out signals, she didn't notice. And she was putting out signals that I missed. So we just ended up as friends and I even wingmanned for her.
Eventually, drunk at a game night we discussed our lone date and our missed signals. We both realized that we liked each other. But we both didn't want anything serious. She was just getting out of her marriage and I was planning a move halfway across the country. So we started fooling around, hooking up.
Well, best laid plans and all that. We ended up starting to really care for each other. She introduced me to her daughter. And over a trip where I was checking out the house I was about to buy and she was in Paris for her mother's honeymoon we were texting none stop. When we finally met again, I confessed my love for her. And we've been a thing ever since.
I feel like this is the impossible key: don't expect anything from the relationship. No pressure. If it's any good, you can't help but be together.
Met my mate the month before moving away to work at Disney World funnily enough. That month long fling with no possibility for a future was enough. We fell head over heels and now we're married and expecting our second child.
Absolutely agree. Just let whatever happen happen