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I know that I need to go and touch the grass, but I'm an introvert, it's hard for me to communicate with people on the street.

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[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I feel like this is the impossible key: don't expect anything from the relationship. No pressure. If it's any good, you can't help but be together.

Met my mate the month before moving away to work at Disney World funnily enough. That month long fling with no possibility for a future was enough. We fell head over heels and now we're married and expecting our second child.

[–] crash_thepose@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago

Absolutely agree. Just let whatever happen happen

Weirdly enough. That was the secret I had for getting laid. I had a reputation for being a bit of a slut. I never had any expectation whenever I went on a date or started flirting. Mind you, I never tried to get laid. I just wanted to hang out with people I enjoyed.

But because I never expected sex, or even anything at all. It put the women I dated at ease. They knew they could be themselves and it was up to them if anything happened. They felt safe and so they often would initiate something. I had a few that ended up disappointed because nothing happened when we went out, because I just didn't feel it.

Some of the best dates I ever had were the ones where before I met them they told me that nothing was gonna happen or they didn't like me in that way. We still went out and we still had a great time. I loved those dates, because even though I didn't expect anything anyway, I didn't have that tension and we could just have a good time. I loved being friends with women who had boyfriends for the same reason. I never saw them as available so neither they or their boyfriends ever were worried about us hanging out.