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I worked at Disneyland. I met and dated plenty, it's not so hard to learn to be social when you spend every day meeting thousands of people. Mostly dated fellow cast members.
I ended up meeting the women I would grow to love during that time. We went on one date and ended up just being friends. We both misunderstood each other's signals. She ended up deployed and we fell out of touch. Nearly 10 years later, she had a daughter and was going through a divorce. We randomly started chatting again, and she wanted to have some fun. I invited her to a few things, and while I thought I was putting out signals, she didn't notice. And she was putting out signals that I missed. So we just ended up as friends and I even wingmanned for her.
Eventually, drunk at a game night we discussed our lone date and our missed signals. We both realized that we liked each other. But we both didn't want anything serious. She was just getting out of her marriage and I was planning a move halfway across the country. So we started fooling around, hooking up.
Well, best laid plans and all that. We ended up starting to really care for each other. She introduced me to her daughter. And over a trip where I was checking out the house I was about to buy and she was in Paris for her mother's honeymoon we were texting none stop. When we finally met again, I confessed my love for her. And we've been a thing ever since.
I feel like this is the impossible key: don't expect anything from the relationship. No pressure. If it's any good, you can't help but be together.
Met my mate the month before moving away to work at Disney World funnily enough. That month long fling with no possibility for a future was enough. We fell head over heels and now we're married and expecting our second child.
Weirdly enough. That was the secret I had for getting laid. I had a reputation for being a bit of a slut. I never had any expectation whenever I went on a date or started flirting. Mind you, I never tried to get laid. I just wanted to hang out with people I enjoyed.
But because I never expected sex, or even anything at all. It put the women I dated at ease. They knew they could be themselves and it was up to them if anything happened. They felt safe and so they often would initiate something. I had a few that ended up disappointed because nothing happened when we went out, because I just didn't feel it.
Some of the best dates I ever had were the ones where before I met them they told me that nothing was gonna happen or they didn't like me in that way. We still went out and we still had a great time. I loved those dates, because even though I didn't expect anything anyway, I didn't have that tension and we could just have a good time. I loved being friends with women who had boyfriends for the same reason. I never saw them as available so neither they or their boyfriends ever were worried about us hanging out.