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I met her in a bar, I was 35, she was 21. She was friends with a friend I knew. I order her a Guinness and a shot of scotch- she proceeded to down the scotch without flinching and chased it with the Guinness- then looked at me with big “kitten eyes”.
This was all before I even got to touch my drink.
Hell of an ice breaker.
Anyway, that was almost 18 years ago and we’re still doing great.
I think it took all of about a week or so for us to just know we clicked. And a bit longer for me to get off my ass and make it “official”. As far as how?
I was just being myself. Nothing more. Never use tricks, oversell yourself, or act against who you are… all of this comes out sooner or later.
Just be who you are. It’s better to get someone to love you this way than to have to maintain an act.
And it’s genuine. There’s a lot to be said for that.