kindakind

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How do you "feel" gender? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
How do you "feel" gender? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] kindakind@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 34 minutes ago

About the second part: Yup. I wouldn't really care either.

I also don't care about which pronouns people use referring to me. And while I'm completely fine with my body, having a different one sound doesn't sound unpleasant. It actually sounds like an interesting experience when it comes to changing perspectives.

How do you "feel" gender? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] kindakind@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 50 minutes ago* (last edited 49 minutes ago) (1 children)

nothing to worry about.

Well I don't really worry about anything, I'm fine with how it is :3

Most people don’t really have much of a feeling there either. Don’t overthink it.

But a question which does arise reading this answer is: If most people don't have a feeling for gender, why does gender even exist in the first place? I view gender as a set of personality traits that are summarized under one term (a gender). If you match the personality traits connected to a certain gender, you have this gender. This makes it easier for people to have a basic overview of your personality without you having to explain much. But if most people actually don't really correspond to gender norms and don't have a feeling for their gender, doesn't gender cease to exist? Isn't it just your name and your pronouns at this point?

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How do you "feel" gender? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

I am probably quite agender, as I have no intrinsic sense of my gender. I simply accepted my AGAB (assigned gender at birth) without questioning it. At some point, I realized that I don't feel any connection to this gender, no feeling like other people have. I also don't see it as something that influences my personality and I don't apply to gender norms. I just don't care about gender. (This btw. also makes it harder for me to understand people whose sense of gender is so strong that they even reject their AGAB, although I accept their feeling, of course.) So how do you “feel” gender?