Why should abelsim be given latitude that we wouldn't extend to racism, sexism, or anti-Semitism?
My opinion is that embarrassed bigotry in private is still bigotry. It's good that those with such feelings recognize the harm that they bring (or at least the public shaming that they can suffer), but it makes for a simpler life to just excise such hatreds whenever you can.
Every now and again I see a comment on the internet that triggers my Dad response and makes me want to offer a virtual hug to a stranger.
(You are lovable and the world is better with you in it.)