Well I would definitely put blahaj down as a queer-focused space rather than a women-focused space. It's inclusive, women are welcome, but the community there is very much about queer issues.
Cryophilia
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I don't think we can equate "queer space" with "women's space".
You really don't see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It's one of the most fundamental human desires.
Most of the fediverse is male, and there's a significant trans woman space, but there's no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I've seen.
And yes, I think it's reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they're all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.
Man, I have been in SO MANY internet arguments where I am simultaneously arguing against a woman that yes, men have problems, while also arguing against a man that no, those problems are not worse on the whole than women have.
Back when the whole "bear in the woods" thing was going around misogynists would try to jump in and support me.
Woman: "all men are rapists"
Me: "that's insulting and hurtful and misandrist, and also not even close to true"
Misogynist: "Yeah! And also women are heartless bitches!"
Me: "I don't remember asking YOU a goddamn thing"