Most of the fediverse is male, and there's a significant trans woman space, but there's no spaces that really cater to cis women or to trans men specifically that I've seen.

And yes, I think it's reasonable to look for a space that is strongly (though not exclusively) cis-woman, in the same way that a Protestant would feel out of place in a Catholic community, even though they're all Christian. I imagine most cis women feel the same way as I (a cis man) feel when going to blahaj - like a friendly, allied visitor in a foreign land.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

We have !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Community wise we have !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al its a women only community by women for women.

[–] Eiri@lemmy.ca 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

But like what even is a social media for women? I wasn't aware the ones we currently have were for men

[–] Tonuka@feddit.org 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

reddit has /r/TwoXChromosomes which is one of my favorite subs. It's a general womens subreddit, and though it obviously leans feminist it's not its main purpose. It welcomes all genders, but remains a womens space.

The fediverse could really use that energy.

[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 0 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Yeah but thats a subreddit not REDDIT itself, you can similarly start a /c/TwoX on just about any Lemmy instance.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 0 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Depends. You looking for a woman's space...or a terf space?

[–] tfm@europe.pub 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I definitely think it should be an inclusive, not exclusive space

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 0 points 8 months ago (2 children)

blahaj.zone is a great one I've found. Extremely inclusive, brooks absolutely no bullshit from bad faith actors.

Is also very very queer tho JSYK

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I don't think we can equate "queer space" with "women's space".

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I didn't.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Well I would definitely put blahaj down as a queer-focused space rather than a women-focused space. It's inclusive, women are welcome, but the community there is very much about queer issues.

[–] yeather@lemmy.ca 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Except the Drag person, obvious troll they keep around.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

People are fucking weird about drag.

Honestly there are far more worthy things to get pissed about this day and age, open a window

[–] yeather@lemmy.ca 1 points 8 months ago

I just blocked them and moved on. It’s just insane it took so long for the admins to finally ban them.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Pardon my ignorance but what would be the point of that? You can sign up on any instance and participate in any women's communities. It's not like there's any way to verify the user's gender anyway.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago

You really don't see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It's one of the most fundamental human desires.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Youre absolutely welcome to join Blahaj zone. Our wonderful administration team (both of whom are women) bans misogyny whenever it comes around to our communities. The mods for our main communities share a very aggressive moderation policy.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

They also ban real users instead of the people literally calling their gender "dragonfucker" and "attack helicopter"

There were a bunch of users who got angry about these users mocking gender expression and then when they told the trolls to fucking stop Ada banned them

The blahaj admins are trolls

[–] StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Lemmy has an undeniable woman problem that it carried over from Reddit. I've lost count of the number of pathetic blokes that I have blocked on here for anti feminism.

[–] AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

yep it's pretty horrible. any time gender issues are brought up there's dozens of comments saying "what about the men" and completely missing the point

[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

As a guy, I do recognise that men are disadvantaged in many areas and need to be put on equal footing with women-- like courts disproportionately award custody of children to mothers, regardless of how unfit the mother is to be a caregiver. But broadly speaking from my pespective, women are still at more disadvantage. I used to live in a bad part of my city for many years and have had little to no issues. However, it is a different story from women I spoke who got harrased, and another hit on the head. They said they will avoid going to the city ever again. I remember sharing the accounts of these women to other men, and the men were surprised because their experience is the complete opposite. Women are still seen as weak. And in the corporate hierarchy, men (of tall statures) disproportionately make up the board of directors and executive roles.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Man, I have been in SO MANY internet arguments where I am simultaneously arguing against a woman that yes, men have problems, while also arguing against a man that no, those problems are not worse on the whole than women have.

Back when the whole "bear in the woods" thing was going around misogynists would try to jump in and support me.

Woman: "all men are rapists"

Me: "that's insulting and hurtful and misandrist, and also not even close to true"

Misogynist: "Yeah! And also women are heartless bitches!"

Me: "I don't remember asking YOU a goddamn thing"

[–] mholiv@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

EDIT: Look at the responses to this comment for the proof.

100%

It’s really bad and lemmy is really in denial.

Sexism here is much worse than it was on Reddit.

It feels like 2008 Reddit here sexism wise, except instead of Ron Paul libertarians tooting their horns everywhere we have heavy tracked vehicle enthusiasts.

I did hope lemmy having a left leaning culture would help but it does not.

Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “everyone has that why think about women” or “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.

[–] drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

you mean the comments that have been downvoted to the bottom?

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Try making any post that focuses on situations uniquely or disproportionally experienced by women and you get mostly “what about men” or “men have it worst” responses.

that's kind of just how controversial things are on the internet though.

Evens shitposting from men will get similar responses from women, it's just how it is now. Sort of always has been.

[–] mholiv@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago

THIS. EXACTY THIS RIGHT HERE. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I MEAN.

Me: talks about issue disproportionately affecting women.

Lemmy User: It’s not really about women. Everyone suffers from this.