I made some off-hand comments on a post on 196 and didn't realize they'd be taken the wrong way. I made a few more comments to help clarify my idea but caught a blanket ban from blahaj.zone with no warning or message.

https://lemmy.world/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=588349

I'm mortified :( It's never been my goal to make others feel bad online. I had a quibble with the wording on a meme and clumsily worded my idea of "Our differences shouldn't be minimized because they make us special" was seen as transphobia/TERF rhetoric.

But with no prior warnings or even a message from a mod to 'cool it', I got banned from the entire instance. I love these communities (feel free to look at my 2.5 years of comment/post history) and I would like to be able to continue to participate.

So, is there a formalized method of ban appeal beyond messaging mods? Their instance has like 12, so I don't want to spam them and have it seen as harassment.

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[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

There's a no threadiverse-wide appeals community, but it sounds like it might be useful if it becomes standard. We have !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com but that's more about speaking truth to power, although it's been used before to convince mods to reverse bad moderation actions

[–] stabby_cicada@slrpnk.net 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I think any sort of fediverse-wide appeal community, or process, would risk compromising the whole point of the fediverse, ie, decentralization. The fact that admins have the final say on their own instances is part of what keeps the largest instances from controlling smaller ones and keeps the fediverse free of centralized control.

I mean, can you imagine a coalition of the largest instances coming together and telling a small instance "the appeal community agreed this user was banned unfairly, unban them or we'll all defederate you"? Because I can imagine that sequence of events, if an appeal community got any kind of formal backing from the big instances, and that would pretty much end decentralization.

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

I wasn't talking about anything like this. More about of a way for banned people to have a public place to appeal. For just calling out bad behaviour and putting peer pressure, there's !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com

[–] Blaze@piefed.zip 0 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I'm as trans-positive as they come, but 'being able to give birth' is actually a meaningful difference.

That's true, but from a categorical standpoint, all trans women are incapable, which, at the very least, is a distiction with non-zero significance.

https://lemmy.world/modlog?userId=588349

Hm, good luck with that ban appeal

[–] Scubus@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Im not trying to argue here, but I am a little confused. The first section seems to be referring to medical care, in which case there would seem to be some distinction? I suspect the answer to my confusion lies in the second part, but im having difficulty parsing it at all. Is it a reaponse to the first part? A continuation? The modlog wont load on my app.

Again, i have no agenda here, im just confused and would like context to avoid potential future issues

[–] prettybunnys@piefed.social 1 points 1 month ago

A lot of people don’t care for the notion that medically there are differences, and so sometimes the distinction is warranted and necessary.

There are two dominant presenting genders, but medically we know that the x and y genes aren’t represented in such a binary fashion. Some people latch onto this knowledge as proof there is no such thing as a “man” or “woman” anyways.

I’m just a parent of a trans child trying my best, and I often times run afoul of the more vocal in their community because I don’t align with their beliefs 100%.

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Oof yeah I saw those comments in the wild..

I don’t blame them for dropping the banhammer considering their instance rules and how strictly they enforce them (even if I don’t necessarily agree with some of the enforcement).

[–] Triumph@fedia.io 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah, blahaj, don't bother. There's an elevated amount of odd positions that are popular there, and don't you dare question them.

[–] prettybunnys@piefed.social 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

You can misgender someone there without intending to and be banned for it. Having a nuanced opinion isn’t going to go over well over there.

My Lemmy account was banned because I use dude as a non-gender term, according to the holy verses then in my attempts to assert I wasn’t applying genitals or identity to anyone I was banned.

And let’s not get started on people abusing their acceptance by deliberately satirizing it … remember the dragon dude?