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I wanted to meet people and have fun so I signed up for improv classes in my town. I had a blast and met some great people.

Met a guy at work. Work remote so he's the only other guy in the entire country who works in the same company.

We get beer and a meal every couple of months. We have nothing in common except work. Plenty of uncomfortable silences.

He's moving to Spain next year. I'm gonna miss him

If you count the very end of last year, I met my (now) girlfriend playing lethal company! It only took a month after we met for her to make the first move on me lol.

I went to a bar to get a beer after work, and ended up talking for a little bit with the guy sitting next to me. Then we ran into each other again at a coffee shop. So now we get a drink after work on purpose every once in a while. It's great.

Flatmates and their friends or SO ;)

I'm living in Toulouse, France, for context

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I gave up on friendship, instead I focused on handling my own feelings, meditating, learning about them. It's not easy, I always had to deal with loneliness, my whole life, but then I had to make a decision, keep suffering or learn how to deal with it.

Today I don't miss anyone most of the time, I'm just alone, no girlfriend, no friends. It's still a work in progress tho, not easy to surpass the loneliness feeling.

I've only got failed stories to report I'm afraid.

Got a few colleagues at work who I get on well with. We were talking about Catan and they were keen to do a board game night. I called them over to mine for a Saturday evening and asked them for a date that works on everyone's calendar.. Got close to the date and I messaged them on Friday to say I'm "hyped about tomorrow's Catan night". They ended up saying I didn't remind them early enough and now it's difficult for them to come. None showed up. I've invited them again and get a "we'll have a look at our calendars" reply.

There's another guy at work who has a pair of twins. We talk about our kids a lot and I invited them over on a Saturday for a lunch and the kids could all play. Similar cancellation close to the date.

Now there's another guy at work who is junior to me, but just about to be promoted to be a peer and I'm helping him with getting this promotion slot. He's a good guy. I'll try inviting him and his Mrs at some point. Maybe he will show up.

They're all stories about work colleagues. Having a child with additional needs makes it too difficult to go out anywhere else to meet anyone.

I put together a softball team with some folks I'd met through soccer, friends of friends joined, so the team was chock full of all sorts of fun new folks to befriend.

Similarly, I recently started hanging out with friends of a friend through a fantasy movie league, which is bizzare but fun.

A few at work where we've met up afterwards.

Traveling abroad and saw a few people and we linked up and took pictures and shared WhatsApp contacts.

I met this girl at a wine tasting and after the first date she just wants to be friends, does that count?

Befriended a colleague and her husband. They recently moved to my country, and we're both new on the job, so felt like a perfect setup.

Also met a British woman who recently moved to the country at an event recently where I was giving a talk. We don't have the same background, but looking forward to inviting her out to hang!

I've lived abroad a few years myself, and I am in an international relationship, so I know how important it is for new arrivals to connect with locals. And I love getting new friends from across the world!

Work. We were both very passionate about our cases and had lousy underlings and bonded. We are both pretty busy so sometimes we just FaceTime and cook together.

aside from some new friends of friends, met a really cool gal on the train the other day. she lives in a city where I have a bunch of other friends I try to visit occasionally, so I'm hoping to grab coffee with her next time I'm down there

I moved to the UK and I've met a bunch of lovely people (even a trans girl, which are rare in France, certainly my first time). My colleagues are all young ladies with great vibes and so are my next door neighbours. My bossman is pretty chill too, went to his house the other day for a smoke session and some pierogi. At this point I guess I can consider some of these people my friends. 👍