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[–] yool_ooloo@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

Ten years until evereything ellse fetts worser 4vr

[–] Melobol@lemmy.ml 65 points 4 days ago (2 children)

You start to develop the ability to not give a fuck.

[–] Devadander@lemmy.world 19 points 4 days ago

It’s an absolute superpower, too

[–] sireuz@sh.itjust.works -1 points 3 days ago

Nah, I've turned 30 this year and I already don't give a fuck and fear nothing. It scares me a little lol

[–] chunes@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Closer to being done with all this silliness.

[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 26 points 4 days ago (2 children)

You start to form genuine opinions on topics, not just parroting tidbits back to people.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 23 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I don't think age determines when that happens

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 9 points 4 days ago

When? I think you mean "if".

[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

I'd wager a level of maturity and overcoming insecurity is a requirement, which yes some people can achieve at an early age

I'll be honest if they're talking politically, this still has not happened to me, like sure I have things that I think are right and wrong but I've never been super vocal

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago

Or never at all! Haha

oh? if you say so.

[–] Hazy@aussie.zone 2 points 3 days ago

Age is definitely not a requirement for this lol

[–] TheRealKuni@piefed.social 22 points 4 days ago

I once heard someone say:

β€œMy teens were my body’s puberty, my twenties were my mind’s puberty. By my thirties I started to have a handle on things.”

That has really stuck with me. I’ve loved my thirties!

[–] Rumo161@feddit.org 9 points 3 days ago

Calming the fuck down

[–] AlecSadler@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm in my 40s and, uhhhh...

Depending on how you've played your cards the best part is that you've ditched your shitty "friends" and have your 5 or less close friends now.

You've solidified the music you like. The books you care to read.

[–] Tenderizer78@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 days ago

I'm 25 and still sorting out the books I care to read. I'm overwhelmed with choice, particularly interesting works in genres that I don't find much joy in.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 17 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

For me it was when everything professionally and personally started taking off.

[–] Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 days ago

Finally got my crap together. Career taking off, got rid of my toxic relationships, adopted several cats, getting into really good shape.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

Every year is my favorite year. Currently 55. Only reason to go back would be to undo stupid shit i said/did.

[–] bobbyfiend@lemmy.ml 9 points 4 days ago

Finally being able to (mostly) make decisions without undue influence of horniness.

[–] southernbeaver@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago

You start to really see who is here for you and who is here just to fuck around. You are surrounded by people who are both and after I hit 30, a lot of it became clearer as to who I should be returning my energy to.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

a few years in my thirties was my best time of life. Was able to afford living near the city which was also near my work. I don't think that has to do with age though as much as stable employment.

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

tbf the stereotype of young people being happier and more active and carefree has to do with the societal expectations involved with the age too, at least on my experience.

i don't think anything says we couldn't ease up as a society with trying to make everyone miserable for a change.

[–] spacemanspiffy@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Not wanting to go out or be social is more acceptable. Plus more excuses to stay home are available.

[–] abcdqfr@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

Sweet sweet brain maturity

What Conan said. But with more grumbling about this or that hurting.

Going to your religious place of worship and pray to your god to be taken to heaven

[–] notreallyhere@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago
[–] gray@lemmy.ml 0 points 3 days ago

It's an arbitrary milestone. For me, I stopped worrying about money around 32.