Mostly spending time with my boyfriend. My life currently revolves mostly around the weekends because that is the time we can meet more often.
this post was submitted on 08 Dec 2025
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My family (this includes my cat), my friends, estrogen, foggy weather.
Doing stuff. Exercise, learning, projects, etc.
I can't understand people who want to do nothing. As in, sit there passively and watch a screen and/or drink and complain about their life. I feel like a lot of people do this and it is why they are miserable and unhappy. At least that's how it comes across to me. I only ever want to do that if I'm exhausted, injured, or sick. In fact I most of the last month watching TV because I was injured, and then very ill for about a total of 3 weeks. It was super depressing/miserable, I also was so weak I had to get delivery of meals/groceries. Blows my mind that many people I meet want to be like that 24/7, like I went on a date two weeks ago with a lady and she said 3 weeks sitting around doing nothing sounded blissful to her... I was going absolutely insane.
I find it hard to make friends because I want to do things and most people... don't. Most of my friends are very active people, but it feels like the vast majority of socialization among people is just complaining and drinking. My Thanksgiving holiday was 3 days of listening to people complain, watch sports, and drink.
Writing with my friends, learning languages, and catching new hyperfixations.
master baiting
I had anhedony, and fought out of it for my partner..just to find out that, as long as I am not depressove, most stuff make me happy. Learning, improving, playing, frolicking, walking, biking, skating, programming...
Just need to be in a right mood. Sometimes, the most happy I can be is by just sitting, cup of hot cocoa in hands, watching some video with my partner. Just a bliss.
When at work: accomplished projects, staying in schedule. Having a good team and laughs during the day.
In general: I'd love to do nothing sometimes. I work multiple jobs and sit in multiple boards and have always been working almost around the clock. Never had a two week holiday after the university.
But walking the dogs, waking up after 10 and brewing a good cup of coffee. Its never been the money, as long as we cover the bare necessities.
Watching my kids grow every day more responsible and thoughtful. Being at home (I travel for work at least a week a month). Waking up in a good hotel somewhere exotic and just having a full day to myself.
A lot of things. And good memes. Sadly the internet's memegame's been weak since the covid, I feel.
Being single makes me happy. I used to want a bf because of loneliness but after my 1st relationship, it traumatized the hell out of me. 2 and a half years of crying myself to sleep. Never fucking again. It made me scared to date people because I don't want to feel that much pain ever again. Also seeing and growing up with parents with a unhealthy relationship made me wanna reconsider if I wanna find a bf and get married.
I so much calmer, happier, and more content than ever. I proved to myself that I can rise above the hell I survived and be okay by myself. I was able to find new friends, develop new hobbies, learn a lot about myself and the world. I like being single; no one is cheating on you, no stress, no drama about a partner. I am at peace.
Having a few beers and cooking on a Saturday afternoon.
If what I've been lead to believe is true then that'd be chemicals :P
Not waking up before 730am.
You can tie happiness to the things you like, but I feel this kind of happiness has become very fleeting for me. I feel happy one moment and then feel the sadness coming back. I think this has to do with the fact that, in my head, I feel I'm behind in my life and been stuck without any breakthroughs that I find my peers are getting.
Yeah, I like watching sports and anime. Used to like playing video games but not anymore.
I moved from the equator to an area it snows occasionally. I used to use 3 electric space heaters to keep my place habitable. This year, one and it's comfortable.
Sex
Someone I can trust