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I want to attend therapy for the first time! What are some things I should know before signing up? (lemmy.world)

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For context, I (23M) live in the United States. In Ohio. A bit concerned about privacy because of the whole Nazi problem and the fact that I live in an abusive household.

I've been working on myself a lot recently and realized that I can't do this alone anymore (or rely on Internet strangers to talk about my issues). I feel like I finally have the strength to ask for help in the real world. I've just never done this before. What's it like? Is it warm and fuzzy, or cold and analytical? (Does it feel like someone is providing care and comfort, or is it more like an emotionally detached scientist meticulously studying you and scribbling down notes while mumbling "Hmm, I see, I see" while you yap at them?) Do you start to see results right away, or are things slow at first? How much stuff is recorded in a database that other systems can look up?

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[–] Ludrol@szmer.info 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Do you start to see results right away, or are things slow at first?

It's slow. Super slow. I have questioned the efficacy multiple times, but still after months of hard work on my part there was some progress. It was hard to see but there was some progress.

What’s it like? Is it warm and fuzzy, or cold and analytical?

It's not warm. It's not fuzzy. It's not cold, and it's not analytical.

There will be a lot of empathy, and just like medicine, that has a bitter taste, there will be pain, but it will be good for you. Best description I could provide is a scenerio where you need to perform a surgery on yourself but the best surgeons of the world have come up with a procedure to save you but they are on the phone. You can't put yourself under anesthesia, but you have time to learn how to be a surgeon by practising on yourself.

[–] Tonava@sopuli.xyz 4 points 4 hours ago

here will be pain, but it will be good for you

I'll just add that it being painful in itself is not a sign it is working. Make sure you feel safe with the therapist you choose