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What petty reasons makes helping strangers not count? (lemmings.world)

submitted 19 hours ago by PixelPilgrim@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So I talk to some curmudgeon online and decided to share the small things I've done to help stanger just to irritate them and get the idea that I'm making an attempt real world people. I did get an hilarious response like:

-"your one of those affluents with a savior complex thats going to "save the working class" that it was never part of"

"Getting off to moral superiority you have no morales or soul you dont care about people you just wana feel cool saying fuck the rich while being borgozie yourself"
"your just an edgy college liberal rich kid who thinks they are "winning" right now because your entire life is so empty dry and vapid you need something to feel good about the reality is your so weak pathetic and full of microplastocs and soy you could never amount to anything more than the borgozie"

But it's funny in there desperation you get a sense that you have to help people in specific ways, in specific mental state, and be a certain background.

So what's petty reason makes you a "bad person" for helping people or makes helping people"not count "?

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[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 5 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I used to know someone who believed it was mentally unhealthy to help other people. She believed people help others because they actually want to help themselves. So, the mentally healthy thing to do is to help yourself and not worry about other people. She said her psychologist told her all this.

[–] PixelPilgrim@lemmings.world 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I heard that expressed as "there's no altruism, people only help to make themselves feel better". sounds like it would be impossible to get through to them if they saying their psychologist gave them that advice

[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 hours ago

It sounds a lot like they took something their psychologist said, in context, misremembered the exact wording and intended meaning, selectively reconstructed it, disregarded the original context and then applied it universally to all people in all situations instead of specifically for her in her particular circumstances as part of a sentence deeply embedded in a lot of conversation that took place before and after to try and help her understand why people act certain ways.