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I'm just wondering like... suppose if my parents weren't my real parents, and were actually my kidnappers, how young would that have to have happened?

I have very vague memories of like going to Hong Kong as a kid... and like... suppose I got kidnapped there, would I even have remembered?

How old do you actually remember the faces of your real parents? Can a set of imposter parents manage to trick you? Like somehow brainwash you to forget the kidnapping ever happened? And that you were always their child?

I read about like kidnapping stories where the kid just grow up normally in their adoptive family and apparantly never remember they got kidnapped? What?

(Just curious, definitely not paranoia... xD)

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[–] j4k3@piefed.world 2 points 3 days ago

Trauma is a hard thing to pin down. I think it depends on how traumatic the situation was and how the kid was treated after.

My broken neck and back thing is in a totally different traumatic scope, but the situation and magnitude is still something I struggle to process nearly twelve years later. I legitimately have an amnesia like gap in my consciousness for 3 hours due to the massive head injury. For the first 3-5 years, despite my limitations, I processed it like any of my other bike crashes and was confident I could push through, or that my limitations were psychological failures. I wanted to forget and move on without processing the things that happened. That reaction has reverberating psychological consequences to this day.

With a kid, their self awareness is limited in scope. So I imagine they may or may not block out the experience in a similar way. My point is that trauma is not logical or linear in how it affects the mind. Like the cause of most PTSD is an event that causes a loss of consciousness, that results in severe injury, and was unexpected or out of the person's control.

My earliest memory is around three years old. I was a halfwit that thought I could fly when wearing my superman onesie with cape, if only I was brave enough to leap from one stair higher up and believe strongly enough. So I think I would have the potential to remember. But knowing how severe trauma affected me, it is entirely plausible I could block out the experience completely.