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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/4052877

don't give me the it's never too late bs. Life happens, people have jobs, debts and rent to pay.

Going back to school when you're employed means debt, earning way less or nothing during your bachelor or master, stress, opportunities you're not aware of because you're simply not at your workplace anymore, unpaid overtime during those 2 to 3 years... the money you lose is more than what the bachelor / accreditation costs.

When does it start being a stupid idea? Is it when you're 30? 40? 50?

I would consider my old crush, Karl, to be a Bible Benny, just a bit. He was pretty religious and came from a religious Christian family and had a lot of internalized homophobia. Though he dated a dude and called men and women alike (jokingly) "hubby" or "wifey" and smacked their ass, he was still convinced he was straight or at least "turned straight", as he would say. He was very ashamed to have been dating this dude, acted like he didn't have feelings for him apparently, and acted like it never happened.

Even though I had feelings for him, I don't think it ever would've happened because I was a boy back then and that's how Karl saw me. Plus, his internalized feelings.

In the language I’m learning: Łał - polish

I know for a fact that this exists and even has an explanation, peer-reviewed studies and so on. But on the last few months I've felt attracted (and I mean real attraction, not just 'she's cute, she's nice, she would be a rational choice') to women just to find out later that she's already in a relationship. Of course if I don't feel I can really repurpose my feelings towards a true friendship I break contact, but this gets me thinking and looking for some explanations.

The thing is that people tend to see others already "committed" as "relationship-rated", but that didn't explained why I felt attracted before knowing it. But it seems, and there are studies that apparently support this, that people in relationships feel generally more at ease and have nothing to prove to others, and this reflects in their demeanor, body language, self-confidence, behaviour. Single people that are looking for a significant other, however, normally feel the pressure to "perform" and be desirable, therefore are sometimes perceived as nervous and excessively careful, or even as aggressive. For women, things could be worse, since we live in a profoundly aggressive society towards them, and showing openness could either mean a nice relationship, romantic or not, to being in a toxic relationship, to worse, I mean, way worse.

At least that's what I read about. Did anyone felt the same, even in same-sex interests?

So I talk to some curmudgeon online and decided to share the small things I've done to help stanger just to irritate them and get the idea that I'm making an attempt real world people. I did get an hilarious response like:

-"your one of those affluents with a savior complex thats going to "save the working class" that it was never part of"

• "Getting off to moral superiority you have no morales or soul you dont care about people you just wana feel cool saying fuck the rich while being borgozie yourself"
• "your just an edgy college liberal rich kid who thinks they are "winning" right now because your entire life is so empty dry and vapid you need something to feel good about the reality is your so weak pathetic and full of microplastocs and soy you could never amount to anything more than the borgozie"

But it's funny in there desperation you get a sense that you have to help people in specific ways, in specific mental state, and be a certain background.

So what's petty reason makes you a "bad person" for helping people or makes helping people"not count "?

I personally never really considered "Chinese knockoff" a negative term because those products still fill a niche that is beneficial to the consumer, usually very low cost entry level offerings the "brand name" companies don't bother making. Now that the "brand names" have straight up said they don't intend on making entire categories of consumer products anymore, this could be a great opportunity for Chinese companies.

There's a stereotype of Chinese brands being "low quality" which obviously isn't always true to begin with, but even if we assume it is, given the choice between a maybe lower quality product you still get to own and none at all, I think the decision is pretty clear, at least for me.

With shortages of things like GPUs, third party Chinese manufacturers can't easily jump in to fill the gap because those chips are complex and proprietary both in the silicon design and the interfaces/APIs they need to work with, so the barrier to entry is quite high. Even if they straight up reverse engineered and "stole" Nividia's designs (which I personally don't even consider unethical), they'll have a hard time legally selling them in Western markets because Nividia will sue them. And even then China is making incredible strides at developing their own GPUs from the ground up. Meanwhile, DRAM and SSDs are much simpler than a GPU and there are already Chinese offerings of both on places like Aliexpress and even Amazon (not just using brand name chips on their own board, though that's still more common, I'm certain there are also in-house Chinese DRAM and flash chips from small firms), I don't see a reason they can't just ramp up production and cash in on the shortage in the West. Though there could still be details I'm not aware of, the way I see is that all they have to do is offer something reasonably reliable and less expensive than the ridiculous prices "brand name" parts are going for nowadays (not to mention when the existing stock sells out and are no longer restocked) and I can't imagine them not getting customers looking to build custom PCs for cheap.

Again, I personally don't give a shit if they "stole" designs from the brand names or not, because I consider stealing intellectual property from billion dollar corporations to be morally neutral.

So, people more knowledgeable on how electronics manufacturing and supply chains work, do you think we'll see Chinese brands becoming more prominent in the Western consumer computer parts market now that the likes of Samsung, SKHynix, and Micron straight up don't even want to sell to consumers anymore? Or is the paradigm of buying parts to build your own computer just cooked?

I'm learning direction words in Polish (A1) so here's how I learn them

po lewej stronie - on the left vs po prawej stronie - on the right

lewej starts with L/Le so it's left. prawej sounds like prawda, so the truth, or it's RIGHT

na dole - d for downstairs

na górze reminds me of góry (mountains) or "w górach" (in the mountains) upstairs or up in the mountains

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/40250008

I sort by New (rather than Hot for instance), myself.

Just randomly curious what other people are sorting at default, and if there's a common answer.

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Kinda wish I could automagically sort comments by New as well. /shrug

I would say this is helping because it’s allowing me to learn a language and connect with people but this dude “Jordan” (not his real name) is known as a bad person at my school. He is half German and thinks he can hate Jewish people and act like a Nazi but because he speaks German at home, it allows him to actually speak German and say rude things without people knowing.

He taught me some German anyway, and it was actually normal stuff and he told me I should take German classes to immerse myself.

There are lots of cultural opposition movements online, like against work exploitation, consumerism, car culture, surveillance, intellectual property, etc. I can find communities on lemmy for all those topics. But regarding a more general opposition to advertisements and marketing, other than the occasional person telling others to use adblockers online (what about ads in every day life?), I fail to see organized attempts to challenge advertisements. There is a lot that can be scrutinized. Ethical concerns such as manipulation, lack of consent and just the simple fact your attention is for sale. The effects range from damage to environment, to our mental health, to harming industries themselves, lowering product quality and maintaining monopolies.

We have a cat, has been like 4 months since we adopted her. Since then she has only commited just one crime, that was chew the internet's optic fiber.

Yesterday, I was playing Dragon Quest using Punes. I started a new log, from level 1 to level 11. If you have played DQ before you now that the only way to advance in that game is grinding. The thing is that I set my PC in other shelf to have more space to be able to add some speakers in the desk, now, our cat is able to get over the PC, this was the case latenight. By accident, she step on in the on/off button, and pum. I lost everything. I was saving my game by going to the king every level I upload, but for some odd reason, Punes save the game into sram once you close the emulator. When I turned on the PC again... I just got the 1000 kitties stare.

Online I found this egg for 23 euros. I then visited several sex shops asking for vibrating eggs like that one. On the first one they showed me this one for 130 euros. They insisted is waterproof according to IPX7 and that cheaper models are won't bring me to orgasm.

Is the second model 6 times better than the first one? I never expected a sex toy to be this expensive.

At another sex shop they offered this which can be bought directly from the manufacturer for 50 euros, but in this sex shop was valued at 90 euros, which is an insane markup.

They also had this one for 130 euros in store.

I don’t know if I should only buy ‘brand’ vibrators or simply trust amazon reviews and buy the cheapest one for 23 euros. Other reviews about the most expensive models over 100 euros indicate some customers are unhappy with the product, considering the price. Neither do I know what brands are reputable ones, if any, because I cannot give back a thing like this if I don’t like it.

Every listed toy is made in China so I don’t get the radical markups.

If you use egg vibrators, are there any brands I should look for?

For vaginal and anal use.

This all began when the power went out this morning. I have several wireless routers, a network switch, and a starlink modem/router. Internet comes into the starlink box which has it's own network called 'MyLink'. From the box, it gets split to a network switch, which connects to all of the ethernet jacks and a second wireless router called 'MyLan'. The starlink has a second output that connects to a third wireless router called 'MyLink2'

The problem is I can connect to LAN and ping other computers, but they only operational internet over wifi is from 'MyLan'. It will work wherever I connect it over ethernet. NONE of the other routers has internet for phones or laptops. With the mindfuck of an exception of a smart TV which can get internet over MyLink2! None of the ethernet works for anything other than wherever MyLan is connected. I've tested it several places.

The connected to internet light is on for all routers and I've done a factory reset for all routers except the one that is working. Anyone have any ideas? I'm losing my god damn mind over this one. I remember a few years ago I had to contact my isp to reset my connection from their end. Could that solve the problem?

I want to have as many high-quality stations as possible.

What should I do with my drain cleaner?

Things along the range of:

"Checklist - 1. Ensure that the thing is on."

I've seen stories of people who just don't get it and need their hands held all the time, so what are things where you kinda feel that things are a bit too "hand-holdy"?

Although if such a community already exists, then please give a link if you have one.

I would like to create a community where people can express their bad feelings or feelings in mini-stories and even get praise or support as an "Art Share🎨", expressing their soul however they want, without stupid fan services and stuff, is it a good idea or not?

Hi, I promise I have no unethical intentions with this post. And forgive the cheesy stock photo; I wasn't sure what to put there.

Avoiding specifics, a friend of mine has a physically-distant, yet emotionally-close, family member go silent for no apparent reason. This person has a history of mental illness and dissapearing from time to time, but it's been a year, and my friend is worried. The family member doesn't have much of a social media presence, and we don't know anyone who could check on them in-person. Right now I only know their name and a vague idea of their location (which is in the United States).

Here's my question (and some followup questions): How can I find any information about their existence online?

Are there any public government records I could search through?

I know there's a ton of advertising data collected by phones somewhere out there. Could that be useful in some way?

im trying to figure out how to start a primary org. im not from here so idk anyone except direct neighbors. im sick and fucking tired of the typical activist subculture protest circuit radlib anarcho bullshit. i hate to reinvent the wheel but see no other way

The cracks are showing. The US empire is in decay. What will the world look like once it's no longer able to bully everyone? What do we have to look forward to both inside and outside the imperial core?

Photos, journalist, audio recordings, video, blogging, printing photos, making music, posting online etc...

How do you record certain events? Make a journal entry? Just keep it in your memory to yourself?

How do you trust you wont forget the small details that you know today?

How do you trust the security of your documented life? your journal, your printed photos?

You you like analogue or digital documentation? Do you store data on HHDs? (they have a ~30 year lifespan) Mdisk? Photos? Pen and Paper?

Childhood memories? How do you view these archives?

Do you even believe in documenting the events of your life? Is it important to you? The quicker you write down an event, the more emotion you can convey.

What do you do and don't do?