Asklemmy

51663 readers

431 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy 🔍

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

Open-ended question
Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

Lemmyverse: community search
sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
!lemmy411@lemmy.ca: a community for finding communities

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 6 years ago

MODERATORS

People who dealt with "Bible Becky's" or "Bible Benny's", how did things work out between you? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 15 hours ago by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

5 comments fedilink hide all child comments

I would consider my old crush, Karl, to be a Bible Benny, just a bit. He was pretty religious and came from a religious Christian family and had a lot of internalized homophobia. Though he dated a dude and called men and women alike (jokingly) "hubby" or "wifey" and smacked their ass, he was still convinced he was straight or at least "turned straight", as he would say. He was very ashamed to have been dating this dude, acted like he didn't have feelings for him apparently, and acted like it never happened.

Even though I had feelings for him, I don't think it ever would've happened because I was a boy back then and that's how Karl saw me. Plus, his internalized feelings.

top 5 comments

sorted by: hot top controversial new old

[–] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 1 points 8 hours ago

I have a simple rule for that: I don't deal with cultists (or religious people if you prefer the pampering words) at all. Back when I was dating , this was amongst my first inquiries and KO-criteria.

(No problem with faith, just cults/religions).

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.world 9 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Never heard of these terms before, did you make them up?

[–] CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works 5 points 13 hours ago

They sound made up but convey the meaning well enough. "Talk about your experience with Bible-thumping peers"

[–] monovergent@lemmy.ml 1 points 13 hours ago

I have heard those terms in the past, albeit not too often

[–] GuyFawkes@midwest.social 2 points 14 hours ago

He DATED A DUDE (presumably) WHEN YOU WERE A DUDE (was a boy back then).

Feels like this was a you problem absent additional info.