Companies putting their stuff into discord is like all the businesses that ditched a dedicated website and moved to facebook however many years ago. Yay, now it is on a format that doesn't work well for presenting static information and will inevitably require account registration!
If he doesn't think the government uses sql after having his goons break into multiple government servers he is an idiot.
If he is lying to cover his ass for fucking up so many things (the more likely explanation) then saying "he never used sql" is basically a dig at how technically inept he really is despite bragging about being a tech bro.
My guess is that women who have had their pain dismissed for their entire lives fall into the trap of internalizing the dismissal.