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Sorry if I sounded like blaming you of something! The point I was trying to make was more about how many autists are ashamed of themselves because of discrimination; that maybe those with a more difficult type could be more proud if they were* treated better

Autism still isn't a disease though, you can't "cure" it, it's something we are. Even with the most disabled we should start with accepting them and offering the help they need, not just immediately label them as defected and try to erase who they are. Sure, let's figure out ways to lessen the worst symptoms, but how about if we'd just stop discriminating first and see where that leads

There's plenty of positive advice here, so I'll write some negative things. If you feel like the therapy is not working for you, as people have pointed out, change therapists. Go through multiple ones, don't give up!

The reality still is though, that therapy isn't a magical cure that fixes everything. Depending of your problems, it might not work no matter how many therapists you go through, no matter how many years of therapy you do. This doesn't mean you shouldn't try, no - absolutely do try. It also doesn't mean the problem is you, sometimes things just don't go how people say they should.

Therapy has not worked for me; it can't fix my shitty physical health, and it can't fix how unfit to society I am because of my autism. My friend did ten years of therapy, but still killed themselves. There's no cure for everything, not everyone gets a happy ending. But maybe you do; you never know unless you try! That trying is a huge step you can be proud of taking, no matter what.

here will be pain, but it will be good for you

I'll just add that it being painful in itself is not a sign it is working. Make sure you feel safe with the therapist you choose

I hate public places because people just smell so bad. You should bathe more and clog the damn pores, you all reek

Edit// And yes I'm autistic and hyper sensitive to smells Edit2// oh yeah and wash your teeth and mouths as well, goddamn

"Deodorant" itself, it's just perfumes to mask the smell for a bit. What you want to prevent sweating is antiperspirant

Yeah, it's not really complicated. The worst version is if someone tells your deadname to others to out you as trans, which makes it impossible for you to control the information. And if you're known there's always the risk of physical violence, especially if you're transwoman and living in less liberal places

It's basically because the name you used to have doesn't really matter, it tells nothing about who you are. Some ask it out of curiosity, which is invasive even if it's innocent (often that name reminds you about things you'd rather not remember), but some ask it just so they can use it to misgender you, and you can basically never know for sure is it malicious or not. Even people you thought were your friends might use the name later to hurt you if they get angry or some shit. So the best course of action is to never reveal your deadname to new people you meet. It's gone, it's past, it doesn't matter and nobody should care.

Even if you are cis-passing (nobody can tell you're trans just by looking), being trans means you have to either hide parts of you, or you are kind of fighting a constant battle of people reacting to you being trans. Even if you're in a position good enough for it to not be that malicious, it will wear you down eventually. You might think you're strong enough, that you can casually talk about your past and the name you had, you can take it! You're not a victim! And sure, maybe you can keep that up for couple years if you're lucky, but it gets old fast, and it will wear you down. Telling your deadname is just giving more free ammo to people who are more likely to shoot at you than you'd like

Totally fair. I also have a gender neutral name these days, but since my parents thought names for both a girl and a boy before I was born I'd consider those my woman/man -names. But yeah the reality of being trans is that you can't ever tell any other names, unless you're lying for safety. It's always weaponized

I'm trans so I would have to decline answering, as any other name than my current one would just be asked and used in attempts to hurt me. But I do know exactly what names I would have

I wonder was he ever able to get his ostomy reversed since they did just Hartmans, or did the acid also destroy all the anal muscles and all that, preventing it. Yeesh what an interesting and horrid way to fuck up your life

It's probably not the genre people here tend to enjoy, but if you are into homesteading and farm stuff, Gold Shaw Farm has been excellent for years now.