Canopyflyer

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[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

There's no such thing as sex good enough to deal with a partner that is incompatible with yourself.

You don't spend all day, or even the bulk of your time having sex with them. The bulk of the time you're having a relationship and that relationship takes work and at least some compatibility between your personalities and goals. Especially when bills, sickness, and kids come into the picture.

That is if we're talking about a long term commitment.

Short term?

Yeah, sex can make up for a lot. I dated a girl in 2000 who was... By far the best at sex and she was down for damn near everything. My 30th birthday present from her is still something I daydream about today 25 years later. Unfortunately, she had a lot of issues and our relationship ended after 6 months. We hooked up about a year later for about a month and she was trying to make us work, but my feelings for her just did not develop so we broke up again. We're actually still friends now 25 years later. She got over her issues and has been married to a man that has treated her very well for the past 15 years.

Mrs CanopyFlyer (56F) and I (55m) have been together 21 years and married for 20. We have two kids. She and I come from very different backgrounds. She's an east coast born highly educated (MD/PhD) lady that was the top of her class at Yale. I'm a mid-west born barely educated redneck that she's somehow tamed and taught to eat veggies and salad. Also her parents absolutely loathe me, even to this day. What made our relationship is our ability to sit and talk to each other. We have very similar views on politics, religion, and many other things. We're also both tend toward being rational and open minded. We are an absolute unit when we have to come together to solve an issue and my god have we had our fair share of those.

I absolutely have her back and I know for a fact that she has mine, empirically many times over. That's the basis for a long term relationship.

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Dacor Stove

In 2006 my wife and I moved into a new house and bought a Dacor RSD30S stove.

Dacor made parts for the thing for TWO YEARS and that's it. I owned it for 12 years and it went through three igniters and the door handle broke. The first igniter broke within 18 months and I was able to replace it with a new one. The second one went out at around 5 years and the part was already discontinued. Fortunately, the parts guy I was ordering from was very familiar with Dacor and said that the igniter from the new model would work, the bracket would just need to be drilled to mount it. It took me all of 5 minutes. The third one went out and I was screwed. So I spent about 2 years manually igniting my "modern" duel fuel range. Even when it did work, Dacor used one igniter coil for all four igniters. If they were not all perfectly clean the current would only go to one with the least impedance and the rest wouldn't work.

I was never able to fix the broken handle.

Dacor... Never again.

Contrast that with the stove I replaced the Dacor with, a Wolf DF304. Granted, we're talking about a very high end range vs a middle of the road POS. However, Wolf has not changed the design of the DF304 in 25 years. I actually bought my Wolf 2nd hand, hence why I could afford it. It was 8 years old when I bought it. Wolf not only still has all the parts for it in stock, the stove is still in production. It currently is 14 years old and works like new, compared to the Dacor being 12 years old and completely clapped out. Also Wolf uses independent coils for each igniter, so the current doesn't flow to the igniter with the least impedance like the Dacor.

I know this sounds like a case of "you get what you paid for", but that Dacor new was $2500, so not exactly cheap.

And don't even get me started on General Electric appliances...

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago

One of mine is:

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[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Be it ever so humble, there is no place like 127.0.0.1.

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

The technology is way too resource intensive for the benefit it gives. By resource, I mean environmental and technological. Have you seen the prices of DDR5 RAM? Microsoft is actually working to bring TMI 1 back online. TMI = Three Mile Island as in a full sized nuclear reactor that has been retired from service since 2019. The only reason why they are not bringing TMI2 back online is because IF F$%KING MELTED DOWN IN 1979.

Add to that Micron exited the consumer market to provide memory to the AI market only... What the actual F#$k?

Now the bubble has formed and the people that shoved tens of billions into it are trying to fill that bubble by any means necessary. Which means the entire population of this country are constantly bombarded by it for purposes it is ill suited to.

When, not if, this bubble pops it's going to be a wild ride.

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

It was "Mom" and "Dad".

The one time I called my Mom by her first name was when we worked at a nursery/garden center together. A customer asked me a question and my Mom was close by working on something and I didn't want to call her "Mom" in front of the customer.

It was one of the most awkward things I've ever done. My Mom ended up not caring, she understood.

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'll just say it.. She was nuts. The sex was OK, but not good enough to deal with crazy. Fortunately, she was not the smartest and the games she attempted to play were all things I had seen before and she had the subtly of a brick. So it was pretty easy to avoid her traps. That probably lead to what happened that night. I wasn't fulfilling her supply needs and wanted to find an easier target. At least it has made for a good story 22 years later.

Also, It all worked out in the end. About 6 months after the above happened I met the future Mrs. CanopyFlyer. We've been married 20 years now and have two kids.

Just for kicks, after posting above I looked up Pool girl on Facebook, she has a fairly unique name. She lives in Boston now, the event above took place in Cincinnati and she is apparently still single 22 years later. At least her profile does not show anyone but her. She is 4 years younger than me so that puts her at 51 single and no family.

I get people not wanting kids. I didn't until I met Mrs. Canopyflyer so no shade on Pool girl on that, but I cannot imagine still being alone at my age. With that said, I do have a friend that is my age that lost her husband to a heart attack this year. That's been pretty devastating and I feel so badly for her.

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I have two kids.

Oldest is a figure/ synchronized figure skater

Youngest is a hockey player.

Believe me, hockey is a LOT more civilized than figure skating and especially Synchro.

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Had actually been dating this girl for about a month. It was 4th or 5th date and she wanted to go play pool. Which was fine with me as at the time I loved to play pool and had my own cue. So I took her to one of my favorite pool places where we could rent a table by the hour.

We had been there about an hour and stopped to get some food. The place had a bar with food and TV's all over the place.

We sat down and started eating and talking. Nothing serious, just chatting between bites.

Then she drops this: "You're one of the weirdest guys I've ever met."

Somewhat shocked I asked why... Her response was that I wasn't watching the football game playing on all the TV's.

I took a moment and looked around and sure enough most, if not all the guys in the room were glued to the TV... I looked at the game playing, saw a football game, shrugged and stated that I've never been much of a sports fan.

That ended the relationship. We talked a couple more times after that, but we never went on another date. She called me about a month later complaining that some guy she met in a bar won't return her phone calls. That was the last time I ever spoke to her.

I still don't watch football, baseball, soccer or basketball. I'm a skydiver, why would I care about some game that only requires one ball?

[–] Canopyflyer@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

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