This may be true, however a simpler explanation is that a lot of people are in relationships, so the prior probability of liking someone who’s not in a relationship is already low. Also it could be that attractive people are more likely to be in a relationship, further reducing this probability.
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This came to my mind right now: people within the age range I'm willing to consider (25-45) are more likely to be already married or dating someone.
This and people lie
In this case I could verify by seeing, asking around and peeking their Instagram. Small town thing.
For sure. It’s also “cuffing season”. Wait til summer when people are single and ready for a fling.
At least from my experience, when people are in relationships, they don't feel like they have to "prove" anything to other individuals which they may want to date/have a relationship with. I think some people take that as a sign of not necessarily attraction, but a sense of ease? Which some people may misconceive as something else.
This may be totally wrong, but sort of what I've personally seen.
Hope it helps.
Edit: this coming from a bisexual individual, and have seen it with people of all genders.
I dunno. Maybe people are more honest and real. I have a story from my youth. A friend and I put in singles ads in the local paper. Whelp I tend to be a pretty honest and straight forward person so my ad said things like I don't really excersise but I like doing active things like walking. With his he was putting his best foot forward which to be honest, to me, was pretty much B Sing. So I got a response and he did not and his response was like. How did you get a response. Your add is like hey im fat and lazy. Now that is certainly not what my ad said but to his mind it was. To admit any basic human frailty was to be the worst possible interpretation anyone can make of it. Basically maga level. Of course I think @hades@feddit.uk has a point that people who are catches, good looks and/or great personality and such, likely have an easier time finding relationships
In my 20s I had something of the opposite and had a number of women interested in me who were themselves in relationships, while I was not. Enough of a ratio compared to women who were single who were interested in me (which was not a high number) that I started to wonder why.
I'm not particularly outgoing either. Probably just statistics/chance, but I always wondered if there was something to it I was unconsciously contributing to.