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So Gen-Z incel infuencer brought the male loneliness epidemic concept, I understand that for many people loneliness isn't a blessing, and know that it feel better to sleep in the arm of someone loving you than alone.

However, if I remember my English class, single women were mostly banned from immigrating to the US, and men were the one travelling to the far-west, so I expect a pretty bad gender-ratio, with many single men How was it managed at the time ? Did it led to societal scale problem ?

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[โ€“] loppy@fedia.io 11 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I understand that for many people loneliness isn't a blessing

I think there is a misunderstanding about the word "loneliness" here (which I used to share). I was skimming an academic article about this some time ago, and was very surprised when they gave a definition of loneliness that is apparently standard in academia: something like "your emotional needs are not met by the people around you/in your life". It has nothing at all to do with whether or not or how many people are present in your life, and whether or not you like the company of other people. By this definition, you are not lonely, and furthermore loneliness is definitionally bad and cannot be a "blessing".

Maybe I just personally never had a proper definition of "loneliness" in my head to begin with, but I think this rather technical usage of the word "lonely" is an extreme disconnect between researchers/academic writing and how the general populace interprets the word.

[โ€“] dustyData@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

extreme disconnect between researchers/academic writing and how the general populace interprets the word

This is the bane of sciences communication. No, the way I'm using the word is not the same you use and therefore your interpretation of my research is wrong. Prescriptive arguments about semantics are irrelevant and don't fix the situation in the slightest, if anything they muddy the waters and worsen the quality of the discussion.