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How Do You Find Someone? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hi, I promise I have no unethical intentions with this post. And forgive the cheesy stock photo; I wasn't sure what to put there.

Avoiding specifics, a friend of mine has a physically-distant, yet emotionally-close, family member go silent for no apparent reason. This person has a history of mental illness and dissapearing from time to time, but it's been a year, and my friend is worried. The family member doesn't have much of a social media presence, and we don't know anyone who could check on them in-person. Right now I only know their name and a vague idea of their location (which is in the United States).

Here's my question (and some followup questions): How can I find any information about their existence online?

Are there any public government records I could search through?

I know there's a ton of advertising data collected by phones somewhere out there. Could that be useful in some way?

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[–] solrize@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

If none of the online and similar stuff works, it might be time for the family to file a missing person report. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philip_Agre about a guy who disappeared like that. He was eventually confirmed to be ok, but had apparently decided to go off the map for personal reasons.

There was also a medical researcher whose name I've forgotten, who also went dark iike that. Her family eventually found her and she said oh, she hadn't been up to much, and just didn't realize that anyone was looking for her. She did some well known work connecting allergies with cancer but I haven't been able to identify her through a few web searches. Anyone remember?

Added: aha, found. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margie_Profet

Added 2: Oh my, I didn't know the whole story. Profet apparently had physical and mental health issues, possibly schizophrenia, and she gradually pulled away from people who knew her, rather than suddenly vanishing. After she had been missing for years, the article above found its way to her and she contacted her family. IDK what if anything she has been doing since then, but she appears to still be around. She reminds me a bit of John Forbes Nash, mathematician who was the subject of the book and movie "A Beautiful Mind". https://blogs.nature.com/news/2012/05/missing-biologist-surfaces-reunites-with-family.html