No, it's okay to block people for being annoying.
this post was submitted on 18 Dec 2025
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Block and move on.
Thanks! I felt mean suggesting that to her
Demand payment upfront always
Thanks!
NP. I have a few album covers and comms I never got paid for.
Block. If it was a close friend I might give different advice, but this is a stranger on the internet being annoying (or worse). Responding to him will only make it worse. Block and move on. Note: you (both) might still think about it later and you might feel a pang of guilt, or shame, or worry, or whatever. You shouldn't, because you're doing nothing wrong, but that's fine if you do. It happens to everyone. You'll think about it less and less over time.
Also, I would give the same advice to someone who isn't a minor, and you're right to question his actions. He shouldn't be asking/nagging for free work. No means no and is absolutely the right answer.
If he knows your girlfriend is a minor, that just moves this to another level and she shouldn't even hesitate to block him. If he gets around the block report him right away.
(I originally put this first para at the end, but it's pretty important, so putting up top) Be aware that just because we're autistic, it doesn't mean we're not bad guys. He might be grooming her, he may already have more personal information than he should, and he may be targetting autistic children specifically. If you think that is the case, go to your parents or the police. I know that's the last thing you'll want to do, but the consequences if he is can be life changing or fatal.
(Original follows) Fellow autist here, if that matters, but probably not.
No, it's not mean. People come and go out of each others lives all the time. Your time with this guy is clearly over - if it feels less than fun or has become uncomfortable or weird, move on. Why not? You don't owe him anything.
As you know, autistic people are no strangers to being obsessive, and putting that alongside a lack of awareness when we're pushing personal barriers, we can be really annoying. I don't recommend you accept any money or gift cards from this guy, even to buy your GF a new tablet. That will give him a bigger feeling of entitlement and certainly gives him power over you.
Just stop communicating. No explanations, no apologies, both of you just stop and block. If he tries to contact you after that, or by other means, that's creepy af and definitely report.
Sometimes we focus so hard on teaching appropriate social skills that we forgot to teach that it includes being cautious.
send him an AI drawing. a bad drawing. Like 8 fingers per hand minimum
Seems like a load of nothing. Carry on with your life.