"Photon touching" was a somewhat glib way of putting it on my part.
What does your friend think of this statement:
When physicists say “observe”, they actually mean “measure”. And to measure a photon of light, you have to interact with it somehow, there is no passive way to do so.
Huh. Maybe there is no dragging quantum up to human scale comprehension. Like, we can only really describe this stuff with math equations.
Probably gonnna keep repeating my dumbed down summary though, cus I think for us laymen it helps more than it hinders.